EC Gossip/ Why do people spread gossip/watch TV serials?

Gossiping ie., spreading rumors etc. about other people(our own fellow beings) is a common pastime among those who spend most of their time at home, doing household chores. This kind of a conversation/discussion gives their mind an outlet to release their pent up(repressed) feelings which get accumulated as a result of their frustration in living up to the perceived/learned social rules/ethos/roles. The repressed mind of a person needs somebody to target their baser instincts/emotions/feelings on. Most of the time the prey/victim happens to be a neighbor/relative who seems to be leading a better/happier/more successful life than the rumor/gossip monger. 

Watching TV serials also serve the same purpose provided the serials have characters who live life on their terms disregarding social norms/customs or displaying their true(or evil or socially unacceptable) and ambitious nature without fear or shame. This makes the audience serial addicts as they find an evil incarnate whom they love to hate, and hate and hate...They want all the bad things to happen to this man/woman in small doses each day and thus enjoy a vicarious pleasure that is hard to describe!

So it is high time people reclaim their humanity by facing their fears boldly and not suppressing their dreams/aspirations/desires. Let us live a life of dreams and desires ourselves and not blame/shame others who are doing what we are/were unable to do. Every life has imperfections. Everyone makes mistakes but to play the blame game is actually playing into devil's hands; the devil in us. As they say, an idle mind is a devil's workshop. All the gossip mongers/serial watchers have two things in common-they all have a lot of time to sit idle and second they don't think that their life has a worthy purpose. They day the people empower their repressed selves and start living their dream lives, TV serial makers/gossip(rumor) mongers will find no takers and go underground or to some other planet.

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EC MIND & THOUGHTS

Can we say that?
It's not a person but his mind that commits a sin/crime. 

We think about the toxins like pesticides in food/vegetables/fruits, but what about the toxins in our thoughts? Aren't they more poisonous?

I am not thinking against you, it's your mind that is my focus.

Mind is neither our friend nor foe. It's like a machine.(MIND - Machine/Involvement/Needs/Direction)

Mind has certain qualities like getting habituated, a set pattern of thinking etc.

I am happy for struggles, they made my big, deep and kind.

I am not happy. I am neither unhappy. In fact, I don't want to believe in the duality of everything. I am above happiness and unhappiness, the state which is not vulnerable to the events in life.

Real love is to lean more and more about a person/thing. When you love something/somebody you needn't have to learn with effort, the learning becomes your nature. You yourself become what you love.

A world which is moving towards - possessing what one likes and disowning what one dislikes, consumerism is going to be the be all and end all of everything.

It's the mind that likes to make/break rules. Some of us are engaged in making new rules, some in implementing them and a vast majority in following them. All of them are playing according to their minds.

Only through Intelligent thinking can we find answers to our queries and for this we need to rise above the mind level thinking to a higher level of thinking. The first step is a detached observation of our thoughts and then gradually finding the the intelligence within.

In the sea of thoughts ie., mind, the boat of wisdom has to find a shore.

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The Karma of Choice: Choose happiness

After an event/incident one can have either of these thoughts:

1. It is good that this has happened because.....

2. It is bad that this has happened because.....

The thought that we choose will decide whether the event(s) is positive/negative for us. The choice is entirely ours. The event per se has got nothing to do with our life/our luck/our destiny. 

If we think that the event is positive for us then we are winners. If you think that the event is negative for us then we are losers. So the way we see something determines the fate that particular event will bring in to our lives. Hence, destiny lies in the attitude of a person. In one's perspective. In one's outlook. In one's manner of thinking. Winning/losing is all a matter of attitude/outlook/perspective. 

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EC WITH PROBs Ex.

In this exercise asked the students to make words by using all the letters of the word "P R O B L E M" only once.

Then defined P R O B L E M as an opportunity for:

P: Patience (to think)

R: Reading (the situation carefully)

O: Orientation (of your thoughts, considering negative and positive factors)

B: Being cool, calm and in control.

L: Looking for alternatives at every stage.

E: Ever in control of your ego.

M: Making it a learning adventure for future.

Afterwards asked them to talk about a person-related(interpersonal) problem and how they responded/addressed that issue and tried to save/strengthen the relationship.

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DREAMS vs DOING...DREAMING vs LOVING.

While talking about their dreams most of the participants spoke about becoming college lecturers, govt. employees, working abroad etc. A simple logic to be followed here while following your dreams is to keep your focus on your efforts/steps/actions that you are taking now or going to take, thinking of that dream/direction/vision. Achieving the dream is not that important. More important is focusing on your present moments and being in love with what you are doing now for the realization of that aim/mission/goal. 

For eg., if a person wants to become a singer in life, if that's what is her goal, then her dream  instead of becoming a singer can be to keep improving her abilities and skills as a singer, to be a more versatile singer, to look for opportunities to participate/compete and assess her qualities vis-a-vis other participants etc. Having a goal is important but focusing on the efforts in that direction is more important. More than thinking about your dream/day dreaming one should be enthusiastic/energetic/passionate about the actions required for realizing the vision.

One can even dare to say that "I don't want to be a singer...who cares whether I become a singer or not...But nothing can stop me from being in love with singing. For me it's all about experiencing the pure joy, the moment of self realization, the happiness of reaching out and uniting with the universe and touching the heights of excellence within me by finding the real me. The journey is all inside, not outside. 

Here you are defining your dream, you are in control, you have the power and responsibility, you are in driver's seat. And above all you live every moment, with happiness.

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