EC Confessions

I confess that I used to pronounce these words wrongly before I started consulting an Oxford Learner's Pocket Dictionary:

Athlete: The right way to pronounce is - "Athleet"
Christian: The right way to pronounce is -"Krischen"
Dynasty: The right way to pronounce is - "Dinesti"
Image: The right way to pronounce is - "Imij"
Plumber: The right way to pronounce is - "Plumer"
Question: The right way to pronounce is -"Kweschen" 




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Easy(EC) INSPIRING WEBSITES & BLOGS

www.britishcouncil.org/aptis

 

Anita's Blog

www.engvid.com

www.engspeak.net   

www.businessballs.com

Shobhaa De

Sandeep Maheshwari

 

www.satyamevjayate.in

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EC TCI

TCI stands for Theme Centered Interaction. This is a technique to engage in a group discussion on a common theme and find inclusive solutions which are acceptable to all. In this format each member of the group interacts at three levels ie., with himself/herself(I), with the group(WE) and with the theme(T). The consciousness operates at all the three levels ie., with the self, with the group and with the theme. The participants give equal respect to the "I-We-Theme Relationship" and respond accordingly. The group interaction is profound and the experience is rich with empathetic understanding and compassionate listening.

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EC TA

When it rains or the sun shines bright what do you do? You hold an umbrella over your head and create a shade around yourself. This is what TA does.

TA stands for Transactional Analysis. TA believes that every communication is a transaction of states i.e., when you communicate you assume a state which can be a child state, an adult state or a parent state. When you communicate being in your child state you exercise your free will, enjoy doing new things, take risks, be open minded and show good learning abilities. You don't think about the past or future. What matters most is the present. But you are vulnerable too and show dependence on somebody/something.

When you communicate being in your adult state you are independent but cautious. You don't play like a child but act with responsibility. You don't laugh much, put up a serious face and show purpose and reason in your behaviour. The risk taking is minimal and done with a lot of calculation. You are in your comfort zone and sometimes show symptoms of paralysis by analysis or learned helplessness. But this state is empowered with sound decision making, maturity of age and experience and the ego expresses itself in many ways.

In the parent state the person shows his/her moral side and talks or does things in an ideal way to present a role model for others to follow. The "You should be/should have/should do" kind of instructions are very common in this state and the receiver is expected to obey/listen and show respect to the advice given.

Now the conflict in communication happens when there is a mismatch in the assumed states for eg., the speaker is in child state and the receiver takes the adult state. This prevents the communication to progress because the adult may try to oppose the creative instincts in the child and thus the child may not explore them further in the presence of the adult. So the process of communication fails to realise its true potential.This kind of a situation may also arise between an adult and a parent. So these are contradictory states. The complementary states are child-child, adult-adult, parent-parent or when the child is respectful of the adult/parent and willing to learn from their knowledge and experience.

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EC NLP

To understand what NLP is let's hear a story. An old man was bedridden for few months when he was visited by his grandson, a small child. The child started persuading his grandpa to come out of the bed and play with him but the old man kept complaining of his ill health and laid still. Finally the child said, "Do you remember grandpa how you played with me when I was here last time?" On hearing this the man said, "How can I forget those good days? I was so energetic and active. I played with you all the time. I carried you on my back. I was the elephant. Don't you remember? I will show you." Saying this he got up almost immediately, leaned forward and started acting like an elephant. All his health problems vanished and he became active again to play with his grandson.

This story might be difficult to believe but it is what happens when we tap into our resourceful states by means of communication. Through proper communication we can access our previously experienced states and behave like the person we were at that time.

This is the principle of NLP which stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming.

NLP focuses on intrapersonal communication ie., the way we think, the language of thoughts which could be words/images/sounds/emotions etc.

NLP is a science which can be used in counseling techniques to make the client feel better by accessing positive and resourceful mental and physiological states. It can be used in teaching, training, selling, relationship management, public speaking, negotiations etc. It has got areas like re-framing, building rapport, sub modalities, language of thinking, anchoring, using metaphors, etc.

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EC VALUES

A common refrain nowadays is that we are forgetting our values. By values most of us mean the moral values like honesty, truthfulness, loyalty, simplicity, sharing and caring, respect for elders, protection and preservation of natural resources, helping the poor and needy etc. Actually values can be anything which is given priority and acted upon. For eg. when a person says "Time is money" they mean that they are very conscious of the importance of time. For them it is as precious as money. People who are driven by value for time are always punctual for work, family occasions, social functions etc. because of this internal consciousness for time. Similarly those who believe in "Health is wealth" are always fitness conscious and all their actions are governed by their desire to stay fit. So the values which top our priority list drive our consciousness, emotional states and actions. But most of the time we are not aware of our cherished values. Due to this lack of awareness we play into the hands of circumstances and lose control over our thoughts and actions. So let's be aware of the values that we uphold by following a certain thought/belief/action. Let's also rate our values on a scale of one to ten and then program our thoughts/feelings/actions on the basis of our value preferences. This would help us in getting rid of value conflicts which many a time pull us in different directions and create confusion while taking decisions thus leading to a lot of frustration and helplessness.

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A Happy Ending.

I hope this blog helps in making EC more interesting to people...more easy...more familiar. So let your thoughts get a new voice in EC....for a new sunrise in your life.