EC NLP

To understand what NLP is let's hear a story. An old man was bedridden for few months when he was visited by his grandson, a small child. The child started persuading his grandpa to come out of the bed and play with him but the old man kept complaining of his ill health and laid still. Finally the child said, "Do you remember grandpa how you played with me when I was here last time?" On hearing this the man said, "How can I forget those good days? I was so energetic and active. I played with you all the time. I carried you on my back. I was the elephant. Don't you remember? I will show you." Saying this he got up almost immediately, leaned forward and started acting like an elephant. All his health problems vanished and he became active again to play with his grandson.

This story might be difficult to believe but it is what happens when we tap into our resourceful states by means of communication. Through proper communication we can access our previously experienced states and behave like the person we were at that time.

This is the principle of NLP which stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming.

NLP focuses on intrapersonal communication ie., the way we think, the language of thoughts which could be words/images/sounds/emotions etc.

NLP is a science which can be used in counseling techniques to make the client feel better by accessing positive and resourceful mental and physiological states. It can be used in teaching, training, selling, relationship management, public speaking, negotiations etc. It has got areas like re-framing, building rapport, sub modalities, language of thinking, anchoring, using metaphors, etc.

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EC VALUES

A common refrain nowadays is that we are forgetting our values. By values most of us mean the moral values like honesty, truthfulness, loyalty, simplicity, sharing and caring, respect for elders, protection and preservation of natural resources, helping the poor and needy etc. Actually values can be anything which is given priority and acted upon. For eg. when a person says "Time is money" they mean that they are very conscious of the importance of time. For them it is as precious as money. People who are driven by value for time are always punctual for work, family occasions, social functions etc. because of this internal consciousness for time. Similarly those who believe in "Health is wealth" are always fitness conscious and all their actions are governed by their desire to stay fit. So the values which top our priority list drive our consciousness, emotional states and actions. But most of the time we are not aware of our cherished values. Due to this lack of awareness we play into the hands of circumstances and lose control over our thoughts and actions. So let's be aware of the values that we uphold by following a certain thought/belief/action. Let's also rate our values on a scale of one to ten and then program our thoughts/feelings/actions on the basis of our value preferences. This would help us in getting rid of value conflicts which many a time pull us in different directions and create confusion while taking decisions thus leading to a lot of frustration and helplessness.

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All's well...

I hope this blog helps in making EC more interesting to people...more easy...more familiar. So let your thoughts get a new voice in EC....for a new sunrise in your life.

EC MOTIVATION

All our actions are because of motivation. Now the question is, what motivates us? Is it a GOAL, or a PURPOSE or our EMOTIONS(FEELINGS)? Actually most of the time we act (or just don't act) because we want to FEEL good about doing something or having something or being something. But then this kind of motivation has no particular direction. It leads us nowhere. It's a waste of time and efforts. When we are motivated by a particular GOAL it gives us a sense of direction. For eg. A person thinks that -I am watching TV not because I want to feel good but because I want to improve my communication skills in English. Here the viewer has a clear goal in watching TV ie., to better EC skills. His/Her actions are not led by emotions but they are GOAL ORIENTED. But here also there is something missing and that is the reason for that goal. Why does the person want to improve his/her EC skills? A likely answer is for a better job/ a better profession/ a better life (by articulating my thoughts, beliefs,ideas and doubts) or for having better conversations with people. So the goals should have a purpose. But the most important thing is to be HERE and NOW ie., to enjoy and focus on the work you are doing.

When I thought of making a blog on English Communication skills my focus was fully on how it would help my vacation batch students to learn EC in a better way. Similarly when I went to have a discussion about the blog with the editor of a leading newspaper I focused on how the blog would help EC learners. In both these cases I was not focusing on any particular result or I had no fixed ideas of success/failure. So the motivation was inherent in the action. There was neither a fear nor a desire. So the demotivational factors were absent.

"If you are motivated by wrong reasons, you would also be demotivated by wrong reasons."

Suppose you are an actor and after a performance you get a lot of good comments. You feel very happy and energetic. But the next performance is not liked by many people and the comments are very discouraging. And you become unhappy and demotivated.

So it is important to get motivated by the right reasons, for the right reasons and in the right way. 

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EC EXAMS

In state govt. job recruitment exams like PSC the pattern of questions in the verbal ability section(English) consists of basically two types of questions: Type A)Testing the knowledge in English-sentence-structures & Type B) Testing the knowledge in English words(vocabulary).

A sample of Type A questions:

He is the best speaker____ is available. (which/that/whom/what)....Ans. that

I would hurry up if I ____ you. (were/was/is/am)....Ans. were

A sample of Type B questions:

One word for a collection of ships: (pack/cluster/fleet/group)....Ans. fleet

The opposite of  'Ascend' is: (detract/derange/retreat/descend)....Ans. descend

A good strategy for exam preparation is:

• Read English newspapers daily; make a list of new words and get their meanings then and there with the help of a dictionary.
• Making a habit of reading English books and newspapers will make one familiar with different sentences and words. This practice will help in spotting the answers of multiple choice questions very easy, almost spontaneous.

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EC Expressions

Life is beautiful !

It's OK.

Wow! What an idea!

Sorry, I am really very sorry. Please forgive me...

Thank you very much indeed.

Are you happy now?

You have been so good to me.

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LAW OF ATTRACTION in EC

Before coming to the main topic ie., the law of attraction let's first address ourselves as KINGS, QUEENS, EMPERORS, PRIME MINISTERS,PRESIDENTS etc. Why? Because that's precisely what we are in real life. Aren't we the rulers of our LAND OF THOUGHTS or MINDS? If not, then what is or rather who is stopping us from being so? We, ourselves...aren't we?
Now this Law of Attraction says that the matter in our thoughts ie., the key content, can attract the matter from the universe. 
Here we can imagine a thought as an electrical signal that has a particular frequency or a particular amount of energy. So what do we need for a particular thing/action/situation to materialize? Again energy of a particular type. So isn't there any connection in what is thought and what is materialized? This is what is called Law of Attraction.This law operates in Communication too. In this case our THOUGHTS, CONVERSATIONS and DISCUSSIONS are what drive the situations around us and thereby change/create/sustain the world outside.
 
So Law of Attraction in its most simple form says that the changes in the outside world begins with a change, even a small change, a slight change in your world, ie., in your world of thoughts or to be more exact, in your world of thoughts having a pattern which is also called BELIEF.

So ACTION in the mind forms BELIEFS which COMMUNICATE with the DYNAMIC ENERGY in the outer world and things happen like magic. This is the ABCDE of Law of Attraction.  

For those who don't believe in the Law of Attraction, there is another option..

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